The Bounce Back Rebound Questionnaire

If you choose to be in a relationship shortly after your last, ask yourself the following questions:

• Am I a serial monogamist? Do I have a history of going from relationship to relationship? [ ] yes [ ] no
• Am I tring to fill a void right now? [ ] yes [ ] no
• Is my ex in a rebound relationship and am I trying to prove a point? [ ] yes [ ] no
• When I am out with this person, do I think about my ex often? [ ] yes [ ] no
• Are my old patterns coming up again? [ ] yes [ ] no

If the answer to any of these questions is YES, then you might want to reconsider being in a rebound relationship. I am not saying that you should not go out and have fun. But, this might be a good time to take a time out from dating to reflect and grow.

Date YOURSELF!

If your old patterns are coming to the surface again, and you are not ready to change them, then it is, simply put, too soon to be in love again.

Even if you much prefer being in a relationship over being single, it's really important to learn how to be secure alone and have fun on your own. If you need someone to go to the movies, dinner, and the gym with, ask a friend. That's what friends are for. And, what about getting comfortable with your independence? A healthy relationship can only be built by two strong individuals, and becoming stron in yourself takes time.

Once you feel like you have healed your broken heart then go out and Date!

Love, Eris

P.S. For more info and questionnaires like this get Break-Up Emergency in hard copy or E-book now.

25 Ways To Improve Your REALationship

I have been talking about what it takes to have a
Conscious REALationship™?

To experience being in a REALationship™, you have to take action to make it happen.

What would your relationship look like if you focused on improving it?

In a world filled with everyday stressors, "Reality Land", many times we tend to ignore or take our relationship for granted.

If you start taking action to be in a loving & conscious REALationship, each area of your life will start to have positive effect.

Here are 25 ways to improve your REALationship:

1. Remember that you are a Team.
2. Create goals by creating vision together.
3. Have weekly date nights.
4. Ask for what you need. Nobody is a mind reader.
5. Compliment your spouse daily.
6. Send your significant other random, flirtatious text messages or emails.
7. Take care of yourself & your needs.
8. Talk to each other everyday.
9. Find similar interests.
10. Give each other space.
11. Smile and flirt with one another.
12. Watch a favorite TV show together.
13. Don't hold on to past resentments.
14. Be honest.
15. Don't ever make threats that you don't intend to carry out.
16. Cuddle.
17. Forgive.
18. Assign household chores so to share responsibilities.
19. Change yourself instead of trying to change your spouse.
20. Support each others goals.
21. Support each others hobbies.
22. Let them spend time with their friends.
23. Plan for fun trips & activities.
24. Be each others Best Friend - #1.
25. Make Love.

Begin to take action today!

3 Simple Ways to Attract Summer Love

Its about to be that time of year again when the sun stays out longer, the weather gets warmer and the desire for summer romance begins to sizzle within.

If you are already in a relationship, you get the extra urge to get out there and have some Summer Lovin' Fun with your significant other.

If you are still single and yearning for that someone special to come into your life, there are some things you could do to attract your true love like a bee to honey!


1. Love Yourself First.

This is the #1 most important!

In fact, I call it the most crucial rule everyone should live by in life.

Loving yourself doesn't mean that you are selfish. It means that you cherish who you are, are happy about your life choices from today on forward, and you can smile when you look at yourself in the mirror.

In order to attract love, you have to believe you are worthy to attract the right person into your life.

This means that you have to Love Yourself.

Whoever you attract into your life is a reflection of who you are at that moment.

If you are someone who is always cheery, generous, kind, and hardworking, then it is very likely you will attract people who have one or more of your positive attributes. Thus if you are someone who is always doubtful of your own ability and capability to meet the right person, then it is very likely you will that same type of person into your life!

2. Be the person you want to find.

Get clear on what your values are and what kinds of values you want to attract in a mate.

Do you want to attract a mate who is fun, honest, caring, affectionate, hard working, smart, shows up on time, returns phone calls & texts, has strong family values?

Whatever values are important to you are the exact values you should start showing to the world.

Open up your heart and give your love to others as well while you are waiting for your someone special to enter your life.

When you open up and give more love, more love will return and be given you too.

3. Don't wait for love to come to you.

Let's face it, there are millions of ways that the internet has changed our lives. And, Dating is one of the biggest.

I know, I know - many of you still shy away from accepting that wink on match.com. You might still be stuck in the fantasy of meeting someone the old fashioned way is how you want love to happen to you (and, I'm not saying it won't).

Or, you might say, "there are so many freaks on the net." Well, there are so many out in the world and at your corner bar as well.

Think about it: the days of having to rely on being set up by a friend or hoping to be in the right place at the right time to meet a guy in a bar are lessening by the day.

What if I told you that your "One" could be on match, eHarmony, or chemistry right now! And, because you don't want to "go there" someone else might snag him up from you.

If you want to find someone this summer, all you have to do is jump online, plug in your personal criteria, and within seconds a list of thousands of eligible men appears right on your screen for you to browse and contact at your leisure.

Now how Brilliant is that!