Wednesday, February 3, 2010

How the Heartbroken Can Survive Valentine’s Day

Surviving a Breakup on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom.

With a focus on getting over it, moving on, and finding the positive in a so called “negative” situation, men and women can get real concrete steps and insight to go from Break UP to Break THROUGH and Beyond.

The fact is that everywhere you look in February is images of couples kissing, candy, hearts, and love, love, love. It is a shame that people who are not in a relationship are made to feel bad on Valentines Day.

To make matters worse, if you are already feeling alone, then this day can trigger all sorts of difficult feelings and emotions. However, all of this hype can trick you into putting just as much focus on this holiday as society does. This can be unwarranted as well as unhealthy.

I suggest that you change your perception of this day. Its just another day, and not being in a relationship right now is not the end of the world.

Eris says that if you follow these simple steps this can be the first day of the rest of your life.

1. Don't wallow in self-pity. Get out of bed! It's a Break UP not a Break DOWN. Your relationship ending does not mean that
your life is over; it means that it is about to begin.

2. Today is a time for new beginnings. Now you have space for a new mate in your life - someone better than your last.

3. Spend some time alone with "me, myself and I." Contemplate what you want to start doing with your life next. It is what I
call, "Map Questing" your life.

4. Get up and get out! Be around people & socialize. Go to the park, get a cup of coffee, go shopping. While you are out and
about, flirt or make eye contact with someone new.

5. In the evening, go to a singles event or create one. Celebrate by inviting your single friends over for a cocktail party. Ask
each person to bring another single friend to the party.

6. The next day reflect on your Valentine's Day. How is your life going to be different from here on out? What kind of mate do
you want to attract in your life next?