Monday, October 4, 2010

Mother In Law or Out Law?

Ladies, do you have troubles with your mother-in-law?

Does your husband seem to never sitck up for you?

Do you ask the question, "How do I get my husband to value our relationship more than the one with his mother?"

Having mother-in-law problems is nothing to joke about. It can put a strain on even the healthiest relationships. When Mama isn’t happy, no one is happy.

  • Find a quite time when just the two of you can talk.

  • When communicating with your husband, don’t nag, scold or make him choose sides. Don’t make your husband feel worse than he probably already does. Start by giving him a compliment by saying, “It is wonderful that you and your mother have such a close relationship.”

  • Then, tell him how you FEEL about the situation. For example, “However, it makes me feel uncomfortable and insecure that you don’t stick up for me when she and I have an issue.” By doing this, she allows her husband to feel like a man and do something about it.

Remember: Women have to FEEL good to DO good. Men have to DO good to FEEL good.