So many of us have been looking for love in all the wrong places for way too long. We attract mates who don't treat us the way we believe that we deserve.
Well, I'm going to be a little blunt and daring right now. We actually do attract the mates in our life that we believe we deserve.
You attract certain people in your life who trigger certain characteristics in you. This allows you a gateway to understanding more about your self.
If you can truly understand this, you will know that each and every person that we attract in our lives is a gift. So, matter how "wrong" or difficult your relationship or past relationship was, you can experience tremendous growth trough the experience. This growth can be painful and challenging; however, it is well worth the work (if you so choose).
The truth is, none of us are perfect. We all have areas in which we need to grow. If you are really honest with yourself, by taking a real look in the mirror, you will see some changes that you can make within yourself. If you do this, you become more of your Best Self.
In my own experience after a break-up, I had tremendous anger directed at my ex. I had negative projections towards him and saw him as the bad guy. I began to feel feelings of anger, jealousy, annoyance and fear around him. In order for me to grow, it was important for me to recognize my anger. I was not really angry at him, I was angry at myself. I had to see what I was projecting onto him and withdraw my projections.
So much of the anger that I was projecting onto him was anger that I had with myself.
Once I authentically recognized them within myself, my anger towards him disappeared. I was not honoring the authentic woman I was and I lost myself in him. I had to withdraw my projections, recognize them within myself and begin to behave differently. I began to find the different qualities that I was desperately seeking in a mate within myself. By recognizing my projections, I began knowing different parts of my soul, which makes me feel more whole.
Once you start to do this work on yourself, you will be preparing yourself for true, deep love.
It's not just enough to say, "I'm ready for love." You need to expand yourself and know more of who you are to get that love. Become actively engaged in becoming the person you need to be in order to create an extraordinary relationship.
The good news is that each and every relationship that you have ever had is one step closer to what you know in your heart of hearts that you ultimately deserve. You just need to work through some of your "stuff" first.
One of the main obstacles to getting that love is having unresolved issues from your past. We all have them. They show up as resentments. So, we have to be aware of them and truly work through them so that we can move on. This requires not only looking at the resentment, but also looking at our part. It can be challenging to accept responsibility when we believe that someone hurt us. It is so much easier to say, "It's all their fault."
The key is reclaiming your power. How you do that is acknowledging how you participated. Once you do this, you can change. This is when you can have your biggest breakthroughs and life transformative experiences.
When you change your own patterns in your relationships, you begin to show up differently in your life. This is when you start attracting different people and mates.
It really isn't about what the other person did or is doing. It is who you are and how you show up to be.
Once you understand this you will be well on your way to getting ready for love in all the right places!