Sunday, July 13, 2008

When is Enough - Enough?

“And that's why birds do it, bees do it
Even educated fleas do it
Let's do it, let's fall in love”

- lyrics by Cole Porter

When is Enough ever Enough? Can you have too many shoes? Can you ever eat too much Haagen Dazs or Pizza? What about SEX? When is enough ever enough?

Let’s say you and yours haven’t had sex in so long that you can’t remember the last time you did. Would you start looking for it someplace else (other than personal gratification/your vibrator)? Would you separate? Or, would you ask your mate to go to an extreme with you and DO IT once a day, every day, for 365 days in one year?

That’s what the authors of “365 Nights” did.

Crazy, Huh? What the heck were they thinking?

Charla Muller promised her husband "the gift," as she refers to their year of passion, for his 40th birthday. I guess she thought this would be better than buying him – Let’s say, a Rolex.

"This is something no one else would give him," she said in an interview. "It didn't cost a lot of money. It was highly memorable. It met all the criteria for a really great gift."

I guess she must have also thought unconsciously that it would be a gift that would keep on giving.

Her husband, Brad, was not all into the idea at first. In fact, he didn’t think she was all that serious, mostly because they haven’t been that active in the sex department in years. But, when he realized that his wife was FULL ON serious – he accepted “the gift.”

The 365 day marathon wasn’t all sunshine and smooth pavement. They definitely hit some road bumps along the way. At around month 10, Charla describes the gift to her husband as “my stupid idea” and “a hidden cross to bear.”

But in the end, Charla and Brad say that their year filled with sex created more intimacy. Charla said, “It required a daily kindness of forgiveness, and not being cranky or snarky, that I don’t think either of us had experienced before.”

The national average of people having sex is 66 times a year. Some couples are totally satisfied with being sexual one night a week, some twice, some twice a month. There’s no number of times that’s right. It’s up to you as a couple to decide what works for you. I do, however, suggest that sometimes you should take one for the team to keep the happiness alive.

Clayton and I talked about this topic and agree that as much as we love each other we could never “Do It” 365 days in a row.

How many times is Enough - Enough for you?

Would you like to have sex for 365 days in a row? Email me your thoughts.