Eris gives Ryan Seacrest Love CPR

Did you hear me On-Air with Ryan Seacrest today?

Yes, you heard it right. I was on my favorite radio station again, KISS FM, with my favorite radio host, Ryan Seacrest, talking about my favorite topic...LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS!

They even put me on their home page saying "Love Doctor, Eris gives CPR to Ryan's Roses."

Check it out!



If you missed the segment you can listen to it here. http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WMX5M3ds

Also, if you missed the first time I was On-Air with Ryan Seacrest
click here. http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/Wj3C1C3s

To read what Ryan Seacrest's blog said about my segment click here. http://www.ryanseacrest.com/blog/whats-happening/relationship-counselor-lends-advice-to-ryans-roses/

If you have ever listened to Ryan's Roses, the topic is negative (cheating, break-up, divorce). However, it is what you do with the negative. What I help people do is make positives out of what is perceived as negative.

How To Get Ready For Love

So many of us have been looking for love in all the wrong places for way too long. We attract mates who don't treat us the way we believe that we deserve.

Well, I'm going to be a little blunt and daring right now. We actually do attract the mates in our life that we believe we deserve.

You attract certain people in your life who trigger certain characteristics in you. This allows you a gateway to understanding more about your self.

If you can truly understand this, you will know that each and every person that we attract in our lives is a gift. So, matter how "wrong" or difficult your relationship or past relationship was, you can experience tremendous growth trough the experience. This growth can be painful and challenging; however, it is well worth the work (if you so choose).

The truth is, none of us are perfect. We all have areas in which we need to grow. If you are really honest with yourself, by taking a real look in the mirror, you will see some changes that you can make within yourself. If you do this, you become more of your Best Self.

In my own experience after a break-up, I had tremendous anger directed at my ex. I had negative projections towards him and saw him as the bad guy. I began to feel feelings of anger, jealousy, annoyance and fear around him. In order for me to grow, it was important for me to recognize my anger. I was not really angry at him, I was angry at myself. I had to see what I was projecting onto him and withdraw my projections.

So much of the anger that I was projecting onto him was anger that I had with myself.

Once I authentically recognized them within myself, my anger towards him disappeared. I was not honoring the authentic woman I was and I lost myself in him. I had to withdraw my projections, recognize them within myself and begin to behave differently. I began to find the different qualities that I was desperately seeking in a mate within myself. By recognizing my projections, I began knowing different parts of my soul, which makes me feel more whole.

Once you start to do this work on yourself, you will be preparing yourself for true, deep love.

It's not just enough to say, "I'm ready for love." You need to expand yourself and know more of who you are to get that love. Become actively engaged in becoming the person you need to be in order to create an extraordinary relationship.

The good news is that each and every relationship that you have ever had is one step closer to what you know in your heart of hearts that you ultimately deserve. You just need to work through some of your "stuff" first.

One of the main obstacles to getting that love is having unresolved issues from your past. We all have them. They show up as resentments. So, we have to be aware of them and truly work through them so that we can move on. This requires not only looking at the resentment, but also looking at our part. It can be challenging to accept responsibility when we believe that someone hurt us. It is so much easier to say, "It's all their fault."

The key is reclaiming your power. How you do that is acknowledging how you participated. Once you do this, you can change. This is when you can have your biggest breakthroughs and life transformative experiences.

When you change your own patterns in your relationships, you begin to show up differently in your life. This is when you start attracting different people and mates.

It really isn't about what the other person did or is doing. It is who you are and how you show up to be.

Once you understand this you will be well on your way to getting ready for love in all the right places!

5 Do's & Dont's In A Relationship

Don'ts

1. Don't think that you can fix your partner. The only
person that you can fix is yourself.

2. Don't try and change your partner. This is an impossible
task. You are powerless over people, places and things.

3. Don't take away what your partner loves to do most. If
your mate loves to watch football with the boys buy him
a case of beer and send him off. He will be more than
likely to want to come home to you sooner. If he loves to
play golf. Let him. Buy him a golf shirt. He will love you
for that. If she wants to have a girls night out - order
them a bottle of wine or a chocolate cake and surprise
her. Hmmm... I wonder what she will do for you when you
come home that night. If she has a dream career or
hobby - support her in any way you can so that she can
fulfill her dreams.

4. Don't lie, be unforgiving, selfish, impatient, secretive or
vindictive.

5. Don't think that your relationship is going to be perfect.
There is no such thing. Expecting one will keep you
disappointed forever. Erase the La La Land fairytale that
Prince Charming saves the Princess fantasy. This will
never happen. Allow the Sleeping Beauty within you to
wake up and explore more about you.

Do's:


1. Do Know your Vision as a couple. Keep working towards
that vision. Build steps into making it happen.

2. Know your wants and not wants in a relationship.

3. Know the time that you want to spend with yourself,
alone as a couple and as a couple with others. Negotiate
and compromise this time together as a couple.

4. Ask yourselves the most difficult questions in each area
of your life: Home, Money, Work, Sex, Health and Food,
Family, Children, Community Life & Friends, Spiritual &
Mental.

5. Remember you are supposed to be on the same team. Be
each others Best Friends.

Get a Man to Fall in Love with You & Keep Him!

I am so excited for this month's Inner Circle Love MakeOver Call!

The topic is "How to get him to fall in love with you."

This call is all about being in your Feminine.

So many of you have asked me tricks in attracting a man in your life and keeping him.

Once I started using the tools I will share with you on the call, I had one man taking me to Tiffany's and buy me a ring, other men sending be $250 bouquets of flowers, taking me to the best restaurants and concerts like Madonna and Prince and buying me plane tickets. And some of them didn't even stop perusing me when I was in a committed relationship with Clayton. And the great news is that I didn't have sex with any of them.

Do you want to know these tools?

If you answered "Yes," then you don't want to miss out on this call.

Sign Up Now: http://web.me.com/erisdreams/LoveMakeOver/Membership.html

I am going to be talking with Keri Newall, who owns a company called "Can't Date Without It."

When Keri's parents' marriage ended in divorce, new questions were raised for her. She wanted to know why men and women seemed unable to hear or understand each other and she was determined to find the answers. After years of research, study, and observation regarding ways men and women interact, she realized that understanding male/female differences was transforming her relationships with all the men in her life.

And on July 21st at 6pm PST, she is going to share those answers with you. Keri and I are going to give you tools that you Can't Date Without.

Don't worry if you can't make the call live. You will get an MP3 download via e-mail.

The tools work if you are in a relationship or are looking for one. If you want for your boyfriend or husband to fall in love with you all over again then you want to be sure to register for this call.

http://web.me.com/erisdreams/LoveMakeOver/Membership.html

This call is going to help you claim your FEMININE within and have men swooning over you, wooing you, and wanting to commit.

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If you haven't signed up for my Inner Circle Love MakeOver Monthly Calls, then you want to do it now. The monthly rate is ONLY $19.97 and the first month is FR*EE.

These calls teach you:

How to get your SEXY back in relationships and KEEP IT!
How to claim your FEMININE within & have men swooning over you, wooing you, and wanting to commit.
How to quickly gain self-esteem from the inside out.
And so much more.

You can live & be anywhere in the world to be a member of my Inner Circle. All you need is a telephone &/or a computer.

How it works:

Once a month I interview an expert who will give you tips on how to Get Your Sexy Back while giving you an instant Love MakeOver. I talk to famous authors, stylists, trainers, relationship experts and so much more.

Yes, I also be give you valuable information and tips that will help you in your personal love life.

You will be able to ask me and the expert any questions that are on your mind while we are LIVE on the LOVE calls.

If you can't make it to one of the calls - don't worry! You will get an MP3 download to the call, which you can listen to anywhere, anytime.

And, as a special gift to you, the first call is FREE!

After that the monthly rate is ONLY $19.97!

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3 Simple Ways to Attract Summer Love

Its about to be that time of year again when the sun stays out longer, the weather gets warmer and the desire for summer romance begins to sizzle within.

If you are already in a relationship, you get the extra urge to get out there and have some Summer Lovin' Fun with your significant other.

If you are still single and yearning for that someone special to come into your life, there are some things you could do to attract your true love like a bee to honey!


1. Love Yourself First.

This is the #1 most important!

In fact, I call it the most crucial rule everyone should live by in life.

Loving yourself doesn't mean that you are selfish. It means that you cherish who you are, are happy about your life choices from today on forward, and you can smile when you look at yourself in the mirror.

In order to attract love, you have to believe you are worthy to attract the right person into your life.

This means that you have to Love Yourself.

Whoever you attract into your life is a reflection of who you are at that moment.

If you are someone who is always cheery, generous, kind, and hardworking, then it is very likely you will attract people who have one or more of your positive attributes. Thus if you are someone who is always doubtful of your own ability and capability to meet the right person, then it is very likely you will that same type of person into your life!

2. Be the person you want to find.

Get clear on what your values are and what kinds of values you want to attract in a mate.

Do you want to attract a mate who is fun, honest, caring, affectionate, hard working, smart, shows up on time, returns phone calls & texts, has strong family values?

Whatever values are important to you are the exact values you should start showing to the world.

Open up your heart and give your love to others as well while you are waiting for your someone special to enter your life.

When you open up and give more love, more love will return and be given you too.

3. Don't wait for love to come to you.

Let's face it, there are millions of ways that the internet has changed our lives. And, Dating is one of the biggest.

I know, I know - many of you still shy away from accepting that wink on match.com. You might still be stuck in the fantasy of meeting someone the old fashioned way is how you want love to happen to you (and, I'm not saying it won't).

Or, you might say, "there are so many freaks on the net." Well, there are so many out in the world and at your corner bar as well.

Think about it: the days of having to rely on being set up by a friend or hoping to be in the right place at the right time to meet a guy in a bar are lessening by the day.

What if I told you that your "One" could be on match, eHarmony, or chemistry right now! And, because you don't want to "go there" someone else might snag him up from you.

If you want to find someone this summer, all you have to do is jump online, plug in your personal criteria, and within seconds a list of thousands of eligible men appears right on your screen for you to browse and contact at your leisure.

Now how Brilliant is that!

4 Steps To Love Your Love Life

How is your love life? If your answer is anything but, "It is fabulous! Thanks for asking," then read on.

It's easy to become caught up in our daily schedules that we often forget about the person that we are supposed to love First & Foremost - Ourselves.

In neglecting ourselves, one issue that comes up most often is a negative body image.

You might be saying, "My boobs are sagging to my knees, I'm all mush in the middle, and I jiggle all over. Why would anyone want to have sex with me?"

When we feel unattractive and uncomfortable in our own bodies, we are totally disconnected from ourselves.

I know that I say this often, but it bears repeating:
If you don't love yourself first,
then how can you possibly love someone else?

So, if you think that you are no longer attractive and too self-conscious to get naked - well then its time to get your Sexy Back.

1. I want for you to go to a mirror and take if off. Take it all off! Declare your Sexy! Run your hands over every inch and curve of your body. All you have is right now, this moment.

Those parts of your body that seem most soft are the ones that are going to feel most sensual to your lover's fingertips.

2. Create a Sensual Bubble Bath. Some orange oil with slices of lemon and orange peel floating in the bath will be just what the Love Doctor ordered! Or perhaps some rose petals will be your delight. Essential oils are very concentrated so a couple drops will be enough to fill the whole room.

3. Put something sexy on. No, it doesn't mean that you have to put on some spiky heels and a skimpy thong (unless you want to). I don't know a better way to feel sexy than to dress in an outfit that makes you feel beautiful. So, take off that oversized t-shirt and baggy pants and put on an outfit that will WOW even you.

4. And finally, get physical. Studies show that exercise alone can improve body image, even if you aren't loosing inches. So, go out and take a walk or a yoga class- anything that will get you moving.

Once you take off those clothes and love every inch of you, take a sensual bubble bath, dress sexily and get physical, you are well on your way to getting your Sexy Back and Loving the most important person in your love life - YOU!

And when YOU feel sexy, and believe that you're sexy...well, then any suitor will be thrilled to be in your presence.

What You Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships

Most women have loved and lost. They have traveled that road of learning about men, love, sex and relationships the hard way - by taking way too many detours.

Along they way they experience a broken heart (many more times than one), emotional scars, abuse, confusion, anger and sleepless nights.

I know that I have!

What if I told you that there is an easier path to finding your one?

Well, that is exactly what I am going to tell you.

There is an easier path for you to travel in finding your one!

Here are some love nuggets of wisdom sure to put you on your road to true love much quicker. Share these life-saving truths with every woman you know. They will forever thank you!

1. Love yourself first. How can you possibly love anyone else if you don't love yourself? If you don't have self-love then don't put yourself on the market.

2. Listen to your intuition. Intuition is that burning sensation in your stomach that tells you your truth and nothing but the truth. Next time you are out on a date or in a relationship, listen to your gut feeling. Don't stay with someone simply because you don't think that you are worthy of finding love again.

3. There are two types of men: Trustworthy men and untrustworthy men. Don't date or marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two!

4. Honorable men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and support you spiritually, mentally and physically.

5. Wait until you are in a committed relationship to have sex.
Men love to treat sex as a sport. Never allow yourself to become their next touchdown.

6. Listen to what he is telling you. If he says that he is not ready to be in a committed relationship, it means just that - he's not ready to be in a committed relationship. If he doesn't fit - don't force him, just relax and let him go. When you close one door a new one always opens. No matter how cliché it sounds, it's the truth.

7. Stop dating emotionally detached, commitment phobic males, jerks, pimps, thugs and players today.

8. Stop thinking that if you move in with him then he will pop the question. Don't take the chances.

9. Your beauty, sexy body, cooking skills, smarts, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER! The only person who can change him is his want and desire to do so himself.

10. Do not stay with a man if he: promises to call you but doesn't, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions, and flirts with other women in front of you. These actions show that DOES NOT value you. You can do better than that.

11. There is a huge difference between sex and love. If you fail to recognize this then you are heading for another detour. Why waste your time.

12. Know that your man is out there looking for you too! After all, men are hunters. Don't waste your time with another man that isn't right for you.