Empowered Woman Interview with Eris

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Rape, Cancer, Death & Divorce
Can you imagine being grateful for any of these?

Eris's Story "Thank God My Boyfriends Dumped Me."



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Summer Lovin'

July is over this week. Can you believe it? Time moves so quickly, which is why I encourage people to not put off taking steps to find the love they want.

Summer is one of the best times of year to meet people. There are so many things to do! Outdoor concerts, BBQ's, pool parties, playing tennis, outdoor bars, enjoying baseball games, watching tennis or golf matches. Fun. Fun. Fun. I hope you are enjoying yourself and meeting new people.

I went down to Moonshadows in Malibu, California on Saturday for drinks at Sunset with some of my greatest friends. There were more single guys than girls looking for love. Where were you?

If you are having difficulties in finding the love that you want then maybe it's time to hire a relationship counselor or coach to help you through your internal roadblocks that are stopping you from meeting your mate. Don't let this summer come and go without finding love.

Love Eris,

Relationship Counselor & Coach
(323) 525-1550
coaching@LoveEris.com

2 Tips on How to Attract New Love or Less Love Dramas In Your Life"

If you are single:
Do you wonder why you haven't been able to find the love you want?

If you are having relationship troubles:
Do you wonder why you attract these relationship dramas in your life?

If you answered yes to either of these questions then keep reading.

If you want to attract new love or less love dramas in your life here are 2 tips to do so.

1. VISUALIZE

The first step is for you to begin asking yourself what you want your future or present relationship to look like.
Be specific and concrete.

If you are in a relationship and having troubles:

Picture yourself having a more peaceful and harmonic relationship. What do you say when an argument is about to arise? How do you act and behave towards your mate? What do you do differently?

The next step is for you start being that person who is in a more harmonic and peaceful relationship.

If you are single and want to attract a new relationship in your life:

Picture yourself in a relationship. What does your mate do, say, look like? How do they treat you? What things do you enjoy to do together.

The next step is for you to open youreslf up to attract that relationship in your life.

2. INTENTION

To attract the love that you want in your life you have to set an intention for yourself.

If you are in a relationship and having troubles:

Set an intention to act differently than you are currently behaving. Use the visualization tool and visualize becoming that person. Take whatever steps along the way to get to the relationship you really want. Don't worry about what your mate is doing. It really is not about them. Keep the focus on yourself and do whatever it takes to get to where you visualize yourself going.

If you are single and want to attract a new relationship in your life:

Set an intention to attract a new relationship in your life. Use the visualization tool and visualize being with your mate. Take whatever steps you need to take to find a mate. Get on dating sites, ask your friends to set you up with their single friends, Go out and flirt, tell everyone you are ready to find a mate.

Whatever you truly, truly work hard for, and believe that you will have, is what you will create.

When a person makes a living doing what she loves, she does not give up, she does not give in, and she insists on doing it. That's what we're talking about here. Not magical thinking but a belief that we can and will have the relationship that we want.

We will do everything in our power, and everything that feels right to us, to do so. It's as simple as that. The person who has no clarity, no goals, is unsure of themselves, and has a lack of follow through, will probably have more difficulty creating what they want. It is all a matter of choice.

It is important to be clear with yourself about what kind of a relationship and future you want to create for you.

So how do you get such clarity?

When you see a clear picture and set an intention for yourself to get there.

You can have the relationship you want. But, in order for you to make your relationship dreams come true, in order to manifest them in your life, it is important to make your dreams into a clear visual picture.

I suggest that your relationship vision be complete and focused. It is also important to ensure that your vision is what YOU really want.

When is Enough - Enough?

“And that's why birds do it, bees do it
Even educated fleas do it
Let's do it, let's fall in love”
- lyrics by Cole Porter


When is Enough ever Enough? Can you have too many shoes? Can you ever eat too much Haagen Dazs or Pizza? What about SEX? When is enough ever enough?

Let’s say you and yours haven’t had sex in so long that you can’t remember the last time you did. Would you start looking for it someplace else (other than personal gratification/your vibrator)? Would you separate? Or, would you ask your mate to go to an extreme with you and DO IT once a day, every day, for 365 days in one year?

That’s what the authors of “365 Nights” did.

Crazy, Huh? What the heck were they thinking?

Charla Muller promised her husband "the gift," as she refers to their year of passion, for his 40th birthday. I guess she thought this would be better than buying him – Let’s say, a Rolex.

"This is something no one else would give him," she said in an interview. "It didn't cost a lot of money. It was highly memorable. It met all the criteria for a really great gift."

I guess she must have also thought unconsciously that it would be a gift that would keep on giving.

Her husband, Brad, was not all into the idea at first. In fact, he didn’t think she was all that serious, mostly because they haven’t been that active in the sex department in years. But, when he realized that his wife was FULL ON serious – he accepted “the gift.”

The 365 day marathon wasn’t all sunshine and smooth pavement. They definitely hit some road bumps along the way. At around month 10, Charla describes the gift to her husband as “my stupid idea” and “a hidden cross to bear.”

But in the end, Charla and Brad say that their year filled with sex created more intimacy. Charla said, “It required a daily kindness of forgiveness, and not being cranky or snarky, that I don’t think either of us had experienced before.”

The national average of people having sex is 66 times a year. Some couples are totally satisfied with being sexual one night a week, some twice, some twice a month. There’s no number of times that’s right. It’s up to you as a couple to decide what works for you. I do, however, suggest that sometimes you should take one for the team to keep the happiness alive.

Clayton and I talked about this topic and agree that as much as we love each other we could never “Do It” 365 days in a row.

How many times is Enough - Enough for you?

Would you like to have sex for 365 days in a row? Email me your thoughts. info@LoveEris.com

Where Have All Of The Good Men Gone?

Are you at the point in your life where you ask yourself,

"Where have all of the good men gone?"

One of the things that I hear my women clients (and gay male friends) say over and over again when they first come to me is:

"There are no good guys left!
All of the good guys are taken!"

Do you have a history of dating the same "Mr. Wrongs" over and over again?

Do you seem to repeat the same issues in relationships time and time again?

If so, then it's easy to believe that ALL MEN ARE JERKS.

The truth is that all men are NOT TAKEN and NOT EVERY ONE IS A JERK.

Of course there are some situations where the man is not on his "best behavior." So, why were you with him in the first place? And even more importantly - why did you stay?

The question for you is: what are you doing in your relationships that attract the same men and situations over and over again? What is it in you that you need to heal?

See, it's not all about him and what he is doing or has done.

IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT YOU.

Thinking that all men are jerks is a limiting belief on love.

More limiting beliefs about love are:

- All men cheat. They can't be trusted.
- All good men are taken/married.
- I don't deserve love.
- There is no love for me.
- I am unlovable.
- I don't deserve to be loved.
- Love doesn't really exist or last.
- Who would want me? I'm too old, fat, unattractive...
- I'm too busy to date.
- Love is pain, so I don't want it

I suggest that you change your negative thinking and know that there are great guys (and girls) out there. Shift your Limited Beliefs on love to Unlimited Beliefs about the Abundance of love.

A few common examples are:

- There are faithful and committed men. They can be trusted.
- There are many available men.
- I deserve love.
- I have so much to offer a mate!
- Men are constantly asking me out on a date.
- It's never too late for love.
- There is such thing as love and I embrace it in my life.
- There is enough time in the day for me to date.
- Love is joyful because I get to grow and become more of my best self.
- I create love in my life everyday.
- I am always connected to a power that is greater than me (whatever it is me) to attract me to the relationship of my highest &
best good.

Now it's your turn.

What are your new Unlimiting Beliefs about the Abundance of love?

So, the answer to the first question is:

The good men have gone nowhere.
Its up to you to get yourself out there and find him.

The La La Land Stage Of Love

There are a few stages to love.

The first, and by far the favorite, is The Honeymoon Stage
- or what I call the La La Land Stage - we all know about.

Beginning a new love relationship is like entering the gates of a Secret
Garden. It’s a place where a caterpillar creates its cocoon for the butterfly
to escape its chrysalis and flutter around in your stomach. Falling in
love feels like ecstasy. The bee’s wings, in frenetic motion, cause a
buzzing sound in your ear. Life instantly begins to have meaning. Two
birds in flight soar into the clouds. Your heart beats faster. Entangled
and entwined. You are floating on air, and your possibilities seem endless.

You experience a sense of vitality that you never felt before. The
love you feel sparks a flame deep within your unconscious. Supplies of

• Oxytocin
• Endorphins
• Dopamine
• Serotonin
• And other neurotransmitters

are at high levels.

Then you come crashing back to earth.

You know your ABC’s and the birds and the bees.

Its love in La La Land.

We long for love in La La Land. This began when we were little
children and discovered stories, myths, songs, books, poems, movies,
television, and their fairy tales within. It permeates our world.

Sound Familiar?

I know that it does to me. I can’t count how many times I have lived in La La Land, thinking that HE was the one.

He was! He was the one to BREAK MY HEART!

As I see it, La La Land is WAY LESS important
than Reality Land because that’s where
the REALationship starts and begins to thrive.

This false idea of love ignores the groundwork that relationships require.

Unfortunately, a majority of relationships start falling apart or end once the La La Land stage is over and Sleeping Beauty Awakes and finds that her Prince Charming is not so Charming after all.

Have YOU ever experienced this La La Land to Reality Land transition?

How did you deal with it?

The first reality that I see is that there is no such thing as a “perfect” relationship
(except in romance novels or fairytales).

The perfect guy or girl is a delusion.

The truth is that your relationship was perfect in the sense
that you chose to be there and there are lessons to be learned. You might
not have been able to learn these lessons without the relationship.

Once you step out of false hope and unrealistic fantasies into Reality
Land, it can feel like a tough place to be in at first. But, the truth is that,
only when you look at yourself and your relationship from the Reality
Land perspective do you give yourself the opportunity for growth.